Creating a Gospel Life Plan for 2019

It is that time of year, time to reflect on and evaluate the passing year and look forward toward the new year. December is the month where my family and I take our yearly Gospel Life Plan retreat. These are some of the sweetest times we know as a family. Over the course of a few days, we look back at our goals and plans for loving God, leading well, and living the gospel. Joy and I are blessed to spend time individually with our kids reflecting on what it means to be a disciple of Jesus. This time is also an opportunity for our family to separately and corporately set new goals for the coming year. Gospel Life Plan retreats have allowed us to grow closer as a family, see God's gracious fruit of the gospel, and challenged us to pursue Jesus with greater passion and affection. 

You can download the Gospel Life Plan Worksheet and resources by clicking the link below. The resources below are essential in getting the gist of making a gospel life plan. I want to encourage you to not waste your life. Don't miss out on an oppurtunity to commit your life and year to loving God, leading well, and living the gospel as you and your family manifest God's kingdom here on earth. 

Gospel Life Plan Resources

These resources include: GLP Terms Sheet, Gospel Life Plan Grid (blank), and Gospel Life Plan Grid (example).


There are three primary areas I believe every christian should set goals in; loving God, leading well, and living the gospel. Each year our family sets goals that flow out of these three spheres of life. This is a great way for us to stay focused on spiritual disciplines, cultivate a healthy family, and live out a missional life. This has become one of the most beneficial ways our family has grown together.

Here are three results of goal setting we have identified:

1. Communication- Our family has cultivated some great communication during these times. I am amazed at how much closer we become when we stop long enough to listen and talk to each other about our family and life.

2. Intentionality- There are 168 hours in a week. If you sleep 8 hours a day that leaves you 112. What are your priorities? You will either AGONIZE or PRIORITIZE! Each year our family is challenged to set our priorities, we simply cannot do everything. Prioritizing our values and time changed our lives and keeps us intentional about the most impotant things!

  • Everything cannot be a priority. You can’t have it all.

  • Everything should not be a priority. All things are not created equal.

  • Some activities and investments are more important than others.

  • Some activities and investments are more lasting than others.

3. Growth- Joy and I will celebrate 16 years of marriage at the end of December. Over the last 8 years, we have seen our greatest growth together as a couple and a family. It was during this time Joy and I began intentionally setting goals for ourselves and family in the area of loving God, leading our family, and living the gospel.

We say loudly and often, there is NO perfect family and we have no goals to try to be one! We do however have a perfect Jesus who has made us righteous, and He is worth pursuing with all hour heart, soul, mind and strength. Goal setting for God’s glory is an honorable pursuit, we hope you join us!

Here is a short explanation of each life sphere:

1. Love God- These goals should focus on spiritual disciplines, identifying idols, repentance, fruit, and community.

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. - Mark 12:30

Spiritual Disciplines are a means of sanctification and our sanctification is the will of God. 1 Thessalonians 4:3, For this is the will of God, your sanctification…As Christians we should set goals to read and memorize the Word, examine our lives, and pray earnestly. Without spiritual disciplines we will not grow in Christ-likeness and we will not deepen our love for God.

Idols in our life are the primary reason we fail to love God. As you identify idols and demonstrate godly repentance, God graciously allows us to see fruit in our lives. How do you know you have truly repented of an idol? You will have a corresponding fruit!

“If anything becomes more fundamental than God to your happiness, meaning in life, and identity, then it is an idol.” - Tim Keller

“We discover what our idols are by asking what gives our life meaning, worth, and value.” Scott Thomas

Part of loving God and Christ is loving the Church. Jesus is the Bridegroom and the Church is His Bride, Jesus loves His Bride. Part of loving God and growing in our relationship with Christ is loving His Church. Don't forget that corporate body life is a spiritual discipline, along with reading the Bible, praying, fasting, and scripture memorization.

2. Lead Well- Every Christian has the responsibility of leadership. Your leadership platform is shaped by age and season of life. Goals for leading well should flow from your role (husband, wife/mom/student/single adult/etc), seaons of life, and current leadership platform.

Gospel courage and gospel confidence are essential for leading well. Gospel Confidence is the fruit of our identity in Christ. Gospel Courage is the action from our identity in Christ.

And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. - Colossians 3:17

3 General Life Categories/Stages: Couples, Adults, Students

Setting goals in leading well for the glory of God is important; your life, marriage and family are a witness to a watching world.

Some General Leadership Categories for Goal Setting:

1. Self 2. Marriage 3. Family

a. Health b. Finances c.  Platform (where are you currently, how do you lead well?) d. Passion (what are you talented/passionate about) e. Fun (lead well in setting some goals that are fun and God honoring)

3. Live The Gospel- These goals should focus on disciple making, personal evangelism and missional living.

I heard another Christian leader once say, "If you tell me your a follower of Jesus and your not helping other people follow Jesus, I just don't know what you mean." If you are Christian you are called to make disciples, this is not optional. I cannot count how many christian men over 35 I have encountered that say one of two things: 1. I have never been discipled, 2. I have never discipled another person. What a tragedy! It should be the goal of every christian to be intentionally discipling others to follow after Christ.

Personal evangelism is an intentional explanation of the Gospel and genuine appeal to repent and believe. Pray earnestly for God to cultivate a brokenness for lostness in your life and challenge yourself by setting some goals to be intentional about sharing the Gospel.

Missional living is where we embody the character of Christ and the mission of Christ through the Spirit of Christ, for the glory of Christ. We see the world through the eyes of Christ. Setting missional living goals will mean getting involved with the least of these. The broken, hurting, poor, abused, used, orphaned, and oppressed are not only around the world, they are across the street. Missional living is an intentional way to be the hands and feet of Jesus for the glory of God.

This is a passion for my family and I, If I can serve your your church do not hesitate to reach out

Brotherhood: Guest Post Ryan Rice


I never wanted to move back to New Orleans. It was truly a supernatural move of God. Moving back to New Orleans to be a church planter was special, but different. I have family there, but moving there as a missionary felt more isolating than I thought. New Orleans is an isolating city for church planter. It’s a tough city to plant in and reach people.

We can’t be isolated as planters and have to continually fight the urge of thinking we can do it all by ourselves. That is why brotherhood is so important. Brotherhood looks like a phone call you can make at any time of the day or night to talk through a tough situation. It looks like life-giving conversations over countless cups of coffee. Brotherhood is having a friend you can go to for anything.

I have friendships with guys who have talked me down off ledges and poured into me so much. They have been people I can trust — people I can share the reality of my life with and receive genuine feedback and real care. Having this brotherhood has been such a blessing. We share our victories and struggles with each other, and then we are able to celebrate or help each other work through our challenges.

I recently read that it is essential for planters to have relationships with other church planters. When we have other church planters we can talk to, our success rate is higher because we are not alone.

Here are my top three reasons why brotherhood, especially with other planters, is so important.

1. Combat loneliness

It can be easy to be prideful and just be on your own in church planting. It can be hard to let others in because you don’t want them to see your weaknesses. That is a fear we have to look past. The good in having others see your weaknesses is that they can speak into your life and help you grow.

2. Provide encouragement

When you are surrounded by a community of people pursuing the same thing as you, it creates a network of encouragement. If you have one or two guys you can turn to, you can say you have people who can hold your arms up. Much like Moses, we need these people. That is what brotherhood is. That takes times to cultivate, but it is invaluable.

3. Foster real prayer

There are many times when I don’t know what to pray, and my brothers intercede for me. There have also been times when someone just calls and says, “I have been praying for you because God put you on my heart.”

An invaluable network

I didn’t come from a Southern Baptist background so I didn’t know about Send Network until three or four years ago. When I saw that their values were kingdom, brotherhood, and multiplication, I knew they were the network for me. I wanted to be a part of something bigger than myself, and Send's vision allowed for that.

Leadership is lonely. We need brothers who are in the same boat as us, so we understand that we are not alone. With the Send Network, even if we aren’t in the same place, I know I have brothers all over North America who can pray for me and encourage me. They also can give me their raw opinion on how my sermon went and how they think the church is doing, and I won’t get offended because I know they only want to see God do amazing things through me.

The brotherhood I have experienced has truly been a unique bond, and I don’t know where I would be without it. When people forsake the call to engage in brotherhood, they are missing out and allowing room for the enemy to sneak in and wreck their ministry.

Our Send City Coordinator, George Ross, has helped us foster a healthy brotherhood. I connect with my brothers a minimum of once a month, but usually more often. Our brotherhood has expanded and is pushing the kingdom even further. I see the work God has done in my brothers’ lives, and it is an extension of all God is doing in my life.


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Caught Not Taught: Gospel Awareness


Understanding the gospel is key to having gospel awareness. The Life Conversation Guide used by the North American Mission Board is a great resource that plainly and clearly explains the gospel. Starting at God’s purpose in design and ending with the promise of the gospel, we are reminded that there is hope amid our brokenness.

The goal of gospel awareness

Gospel awareness is the intentional understanding of how the gospel intersects self and life. The death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ are the foundation of gospel awareness. The gospel does not just save us; the gospel is saving us. The goal of gospel awareness is to cultivate a reliance on the gospel that protects us from being performance driven, self-reliant, and captivated by idols.

Gospel awareness is impossible apart from cultivating God-awareness

Growing up on a dairy farm was a unique life only a handful of people are blessed to experience. My dad named almost every cow we owned. Their names would express an outward characteristic (Blaze) or a personality (Crazy). I remember watching with amazement cows walking up to my dad as he called their names. Not only did he know their names, but they knew his voice. Only through time spent with cows was this feat possible.

Gospel awareness becomes something caught when we spend time with God, learning who He is and obeying His voice. Having God-awareness requires we cultivate habits in our life where spending time with God in His Word is as natural and consistent as breathing air. My gospel-awareness is directly connected to my devotional life as I pursue an intimate relationship with Christ, and am renewed daily with the beauty and wonder of the gospel.

Question to consider:

Habits are inescapable, the question is, are your habits serving your well or serving you poorly as you grow in gospel awareness?

Gospel awareness will be manifested in healthy self-awareness.

Self-awareness is defined as conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives and desires. Throughout the early years of my church first church planting experience, I was plagued with a pervasive lack of self-awareness. I demonstrated leadership actions that were neither shepherding nor Christ-like. Blind to how others perceived my leadership and life, I was incredibly emotionally immature.

Gospel awareness is caught when our spiritual maturity manifests itself in emotional maturity. We grow in our self-awareness and refuse to lead and act in a way that is contrary to the gospel. When our motives are driven by fear, anxiety and anger, we leave a wake of hurt people and broken relationships. Gospel awareness calls us to evaluate our motive and leads us to deal with our emotions in view of the finished work of Christ.

Question to consider:

Authentic accountability is essential to self-awareness. Who has permission to adjust your self-perception and bring gospel awareness to your life?

Gospel awareness will guard against finding our identity in performance.

Paul Tripp writes in Dangerous Calling, “Ministry is not our identity, it is our calling.” For many pastors, myself included, this is an all too real battle. If your ministry is your identity and not your calling, as ministry goes will be as you go. When ministry is good, you will be good, when ministry is bad, you will be bad. As you well know, this is a miserable way to live; gospel awareness points us to a better life.

Gospel awareness is caught when our performance no longer defines us; Christ defines us. Through our God-awareness and self-awareness we are reminded that even as broken and mistake prone as we are, we are loved with a fierce and forever love because of Christ. The gospel points us to the perfectly righteous performance of Christ on the cross; we no longer are driven by failure, approval, or expectations. We are motivated to action because we are approved, accepted, and gloriously adopted. Gospel awareness keeps us from living a miserable performance driven life and calls to the joy of living a God-glorifying life.

Question to consider:

If your greatest disappointments reveal misplaced affections and identity in your life; where are you currently getting your identity?

3 Practical Disciplines To Help Leaders Grow in Self-Awareness


Reggie McNeil says, “The single most important piece of information a leader possesses is self-awareness.”[1]  Self-Awareness could be defined as a conscious knowledge of our own character, feelings, motives, and desires. When left unchecked a lack of self-awareness in these areas can be debilitating to your ministry and destructive to your life.

The discipline of self-awareness is a leader’s intentional pursuit for self-understanding.

Here are 3 practical disciplines to help leaders grow in self-awareness:

1. Cultivate friendships. With so many “one anotherpassages in the New Testaments, we understand clearly the early church teaching on the necessity of Christian Community. Early on in ministry, I received well-meaning, but ill-advised counsel, “If you are going to be the pastor, you really cannot have friendships in the church.” I am consistently surprised by the level of loneliness and lack of deep friendships found in pastors and planters. You cannot grow in self-awareness apart from gospel-centered friendships. How are you intentionally pursuing deep and meaningful friendships?

2. Invite someone to adjust your self-perception. This is a humbling assignment for three reasons. First, you are acknowledging your own propensity to see yourself in a favorable light. Second, you are inviting someone to critique you. Third, you recognize you are broken leader in desperate need of transformation.

We can easily become blinded to what everyone else sees clearly. It is difficult to lead effectively when those you lead perceive you differently than you perceive yourself. Who has permission to adjust your self-perception?

3. Take a personality/leadership assessment. The best $26.95 I ever spent was on the Leading from Your Strengths Assessment. This easy to understand and practical leadership assessment tool is invaluable in creating healthy self-awareness. I will never forget the surprised/not really surprised feeling I had when I read, “George likes people, but can be seen occasionally as cold and blunt. He may have his mind on project results, and sometimes may not take the time to be empathetic toward others.”

Sadly, because I lacked the self-awareness to understand how others might perceive me, the early years of ministry consisted of me justifying my passion and personality while leaving a wake of hurt and offended people.

Pursuing the discipline of self-awareness calls us to look to Christ as our example as we deal with our character, feelings, motives, and desires. The fruit of healthy gospel-centered self-awareness will always be people seeing more of Christ and less of you. Do people see Christ in you?

[1] McNeal, Reggie. Practicing Greatness: 7 Disciplines of Extraordinary Spiritual Leaders (Jossey-Bass Leadership Network Series) (Kindle Locations 318-319). Wiley. Kindle Edition.

Creating a Gospel Life Plan for 2018

It is that time of year, time to reflect on and evaluate the passing year and look forward toward the new year. December is the month where my family and I take our yearly Gospel Life Plan retreat. These are some of the sweetest times we know as a family. Over the course of a few days, we look back at our goals and plans for loving God, leading well, and living the gospel. Joy and I are blessed to spend time individually with our kids reflecting on what it means to be a disciple of Jesus. This time is also an opportunity for our family to separately and corporately set new goals for the coming year. Gospel Life Plan retreats have allowed us to grow closer as a family, see God's gracious fruit of the gospel, and challenged us to pursue Jesus with greater passion and affection. 

You can download the Gospel Life Plan Worksheet and resources by clicking the link below. Don't miss out on an oppurtunity to commit your life and year to loving God, leading well, and living the gospel as you and your family manifest God's kingdom here on earth. 

Gospel Life Plan Resources

Family Worship and Advent

advent |ˈadˌvent|

  • the arrival of a notable person, thing, or event: the advent of television.
  • the first season of the Christian church year, leading up to Christmas and including the four preceding Sundays.
  • the coming or second coming of Christ.
Family Worship- Family Worship is the regular and intentional gathering of a household to praise God together.
— Tony Kummer

regular = consistent, habitual, normal

intentional = planned, deliberate, on purpose

gathering = coming together, meeting, assembly

household = family unit, everyone living in your home

praise = worship, expressing love, showing value, glorifying

11 Principles for Family Devotion

adapted from Tony Kummer, Permission granted to make copies for non-commercial use. 

1. Worship is about God. Family devotions are when you meet with God as a family. Don’t let the details hide the big point – you are gathering together to hear from God and respond to Him in love.

2. Make it important. You can make family devotions a regular and joyful part of your home life, but you must make it a priority. Don’t let time pressures rob your family of the eternal treasure of knowing God.

3. Keep it short. For most families, 15 minutes several times each week will work well. As your children mature, devotion time will naturally become longer. But regular short meetings are better than occasional long meetings.

4. Make it fun. Everyone should look forward to family devotion time. Use role-playing to act out Bible stories, or invent motions to accompany the singing.

5. Use songs that teach. Choose songs that tell about the character of God, incorporate Bible verses when possible, and sing with your kids:) 

6. Make it a habit. Getting into a pattern (or habit) will make family devotions a normal part of your home.

7. Learn as you go. Experience will become your teacher. Since every family is different, you will need to discover what pattern of family worship best fits your home life.

8. Involve your kids. Have you children lead in different ways and times.

9. Avoid distractions. Turn off the television and remove toys from the area. If you have small children, an illustrated story Bible will help retain their attention.

10. Model leadership and ask questions. Mom and Dad should be heavily engaged and involved as the lead their family during this time. Learn the art of asking questions.

11. Always include the cross and the tomb. Clearly communicate in light of the Gospel.

Objectives for Every Family Concerning the Gospel and Christmas.

1. Teach clearly the Biblical story of Christmas and the Doctrinal meaning of Christmas.

Old Testament Prophecies: Isaiah 9:6–7 (ESV)

6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. 7 Of the increase of his government and of peace there will be no end, on the throne of David and over his kingdom, to establish it and to uphold it with justice and with righteousness from this time forth and forevermore. The zeal of the Lord of hosts will do this.

New Testament Narrative (Luke 2): Luke 2:8–11 (ESV)

8 And in the same region there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. 9 And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear. 10 And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. 11 For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.

Doctrinal Emphasis (Incarnation): Philippians 2:6–8 (ESV)

6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

2. Recognize the Worldview of materialism and consumerism; Beware of The Law of Unintended Consequences.

consumerism: the preoccupation of society with the acquisition of consumer goods.

3. Model the example of Jesus and serve.

Philippians 2:4–5 (ESV)

4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,

John 13:13–15 (ESV)

13 You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. 14 If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. 15 For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you.

Download the "Gospel Era" Advent Family Worship Guide

Planting Priorities: Have a Plan for Administration & Assimilation

This weeks guest post is by Josh Hancock from Ashland Avenue Baptist Church. @J_H_Hancock @ashland_lex

For the past week I, along with 31 other workers from Ashland Avenue Baptist Church in Lexington, Kentucky, helped Lakeshore Church in New Orleans with community outreach.  The main goal for our team was to canvas a few square miles around the church in order to increase awareness of the new church plant and to minister the gospel of Jesus Christ to the community. Overall, we secured 145 contacts of people that had at least a slight interest in the new church coming to their area.

            Most would be very pleased with this number and they should be.  However, these weeks of intense canvasing before the launch of a church plant are often some of the most disorganized and fruitless because of the lack of a centralized system to later access all of the contacts made by teams.  Groups of mission teams go out and make great contacts. They might even write some of them down.  They have hundreds of stories about the lady at the end of the block who was so excited to be prayed for and asked for someone to come and drive her to the church when it begins.  But when the team leaves, often, so do all their contacts.

            But there are a few great ways to remedy this problem.  During this past week, Pastor George Ross had me set up some new church software for them that was capable of taking care of this problem and so many others that new church plants face.  I chose SimpleChurchCRM.  Simple Church is a program that allows for a very easy web/app based data entry.  It can handle everything from online giving to mobile directories for the entire church.  Watching other churches plant and reading about their difficulties, here are three of the most common struggles on the administration side of new church plants and how a program like Simple Church can be amazingly effective to alleviate the staff.

1. Finances. 

Before the church ever launches, there must be a way to track money and to receive future tithes and offerings.  Passing out a plate and counting it all up before you drive it back to the bank can lead to terrible mismanagement of the monies and creates a new problem in budgeting before there is a standard-monthly-earning achieved. A centralized church planning program allows for a lay-person to create expense reports, set up online giving, forecast budgets, and pay all invoices in one place without needing to spend limited resources on accountants.

2. New Contacts. 

This is the most common problem and also the easiest to remedy.  If you have teams canvas the surrounding area, give them the priority of getting the names and email addresses of everyone so that they can be entered into a group in the program. This information can be used to directly send follow-up invitations.  Phone numbers and addresses are great, but emails are the most efficient way to follow up and organize further visits.

3. Calendar. 

The church calendar is a grossly over-booked mess in many new churches and even in established ones.  But by implementing a software like Simple Church, one person can be placed as an admin on the calendar. The admin is the only person able to add things to it, but everyone in the church can have access to the calendar on their phone app. This does a few things: it keeps people from double-booking, and it lessens the work load for the staff by preventing them from constantly having to answer questions about the church calendar.

Don't waste precious time and energy. Make it a priority to identify, purchase, and implement a church systems platform in your church plant. 


Partnering as a SENDING Church: Northstar Church, Saltillo, MS.

Guest post by Campus/Missions Pastor Andrew Ledbetter, NorthStar Church @aledbetter

NorthStar started as a church plant in the spring of 2006 in Saltillo, MS. We set out from the beginning to be a multiplying church. Within the first three years, in a minor way, we supported a church plant in Huntsville, AL, Ignite City Church. As we approached our 10-year mark, the leadership of the church began to evaluate the past and look ahead to where the Lord is leading us. I knew it was time to take the next step in our involvement with church planting. I wasn’t sure what that looked like, who to support, or where to start but I did know we needed to be proactive in taking the next steps.

I periodically receive email updates from the NAMB through SEND Missionary George Ross, about partnering with plants in New Orleans. In April of this year, I received another email about an upcoming Catch the Vision Tour and was encouraged to attend. I knew that would be a great chance to learn more about how we could partner with a church plant.

April came, and I remember driving down with an open mind but still not knowing what we could do. The first night of the CTV everyone who was on the tour had dinner together, and three or four of the planters were able to join us. I had the opportunity to sit at a table with Troy Gause, a planter in need of a SENDING church. I was able to hear personally about his heart for the city and later that night we walked Jackson Square, in the French Quarter. Conversations are one thing, and anyone can talk a big game, but when you see their faith at work, it takes on a deeper level of respect and trust.

Seeing Troy minister and relate to people on the streets that night gave me a glimpse of his vision for the church. The next day we toured the city and made stops to hear from a ten other planters in need of support. I heard each of their stories, and some were captivating. At this point, my heart was heavy not knowing who we should partner with and to what level. I got back home and shared with the leadership team of NorthStar as well as our missions team about the trip.

We spent over a month praying and learning more about what was involved in being a SENDING and SUPPORTING church. We ultimately decided that we needed to follow the Lord’s direction and become the SENDING church for Troy and Cross Culture Community Church. This past Sunday we had Pastor Troy and his family share with our congregation about his church plant. The response was overwhelming! 

I think the why's of being a sending church are obvious – Luke 10:2, John 20:21, Acts 16, etc. God has clearly called you to become a sending church. But here are three practical ways you can BE a SENDING church:

1. Encourage

Church planting is hard work! If you are a part of an established church, understand that the work of planting a church from the ground up is extremely difficult especially in spiritually dark places. Be there to listen to their struggles. Encouraging the planter, his family and the members of the church help keep their eyes on the vision of what God has called them to do. It’s simple. It helps them know they’re not alone. 

2. Support 

 Give like you never thought you could. You can get a clear picture of what your ministry focus is, by where the budget goes. If you don’t have a place in your budget for church planting, evaluate your ministries and see where you can reallocate funds for your church plant. Next year, put them in your budget.

When you host a planter, be sure you are hospitable and take care of travel expenses because coming to your church may mean taking time away from work. With that in mind, take up a love offering or set aside an honorarium. Financial support is needed but don’t let that be what stops you from stepping out in faith.

Kevin Ezell, president of NAMB, said, “Every church regardless of size can be a sending church. It has everything to do with engagement, not with money.” Think of creative ways you can bless the planter and church. Every church has resources they are blessed with, use those for his glory and trust the Lord will provide for the needs of your church. Be bold and exercise faith, as you take the next step in missional engagement.

3. Go

Not everyone can take 1-2 weeks off work to go overseas. But most can drive 5 hours or more for a weekend or 4-6 days to serve and meet needs of the church plant.  Be sensitive to their schedule and plan accordingly – not just when it’s convenient for you and your church to go.

We're still taking our first steps as a SENDING church - learning as much as we can so we can be diligent and faithful in seeing Cross Culture become a self-sustaining body who loves God, leads well and lives the gospel. 

What's your first step?

1. Visit the NAMB website and view the city and planter profiles

2. Sign up for a CTV

3. Pray about who to support

4. GO

5 Practical Ways To Make Visitors Feel Welcome

This weeks guest post is by my wife Joy Ross, follow her on Twitter @joyleanne. 

I remember the first few weeks in New Orleans visiting churches. To my recall, I don’t think I’d ever visited a church in my life, well maybe on vacation as a kid!  I’ve never had an option of where I would go to church, but then all the sudden I came to the realization of not being the preacher's wife, not being the preacher's daughter, and that I'm just a visitor, not a soul here will know me.

As freeing as this might sound for some people, it was very hard for me. I remember lots of smiles, and several people said, "Welcome!" Even some said, "Nice to meet you!" I got my children situated in class and found a seat. Sometimes George was preaching somewhere else, and sometimes he was with me. When he wasn’t with me, I sat down alone. People walked by and visited with their friends, grouped together, and found their usual spots.  No one purposefully was trying to make me feel bad, but I remember being alone and wishing someone would say to me, "come sit with me!" No one ever did, though.

 I vividly remember this. The Lord impressed  it on my heart, and it will hopefully forever change me. It was as He said,

“Joy, never forget this moment. You will not be the new person for long, and you will make friends, but NEVER forget this feeling, LONILENESS! Don't be that girl Joy, that just walks by and smiles. Get out of your comfort zone! Ask people to sit with you, better yet just sit with them. People are hurting. You are not hurting Joy; you know me. Some of these people that walk into the church will never walk in again because while you were wanting to fellowship and speak to that same person you’ve texted all week long and will hang out this weekend, they sat alone, and you missed that opportunity to be me! Be JESUS Joy! Open your eyes, walk with me. This is for my glory and your good. That feeling right now. Don’t forget it, may it lead you to be more like me!"

Here are five practical ways you can help visitors feel welcome and provide a pathway for connection. 

1. Ask visitors that are alone to sit with you.

Go above and beyond to make them feel welcome into your church body. Introduce them to others. If it’s a male, find a male. If it’s a college student, find a college student, if it’s a student, find a student (You get the picture. Be wise). 

2. Provide needed information. 

If they are trying to find a ministry or looking for someone,  don’t just point out where to go; show them, introduce them, talk to them, stay with them. Be a minister and make your smile count for the glory of the Lord.

3. Collect information and Prayer Requests

Your church should have some form of visitor card that is purposeful for collecting valuable information and prayer requests. Offer to help the visitor complete one and drop it off for them when they are done. We collect information and prayer requests because we care, not to add them to another list. 

4. Use Social Media.

Offer to exchange emails and give them your social media information. Point them to the social media platforms of the church and encourage them to visit the churches website for more information and ministry opportunities. 

5. Be intentional.

Go to church with a mindset that many visitors show up on any given Sunday because they have found themselves feeling alone and in a hopeless situation. Followers of Jesus should be the most hopeful people on the planet, don't forfeit the opportunity to manifest living hope to those that visit your church.

For the first time in my life, my sanguine-self remembered being very lonely. I wondered if this is what it had felt like to visit our previous church? I wondered how many times I had smiled and walked past someone with a well-meaning smile and nod. I asked the Lord to forgive me for the times I had been too busy to make a difference in the lives of just one visitor. 

Planters: Say Thank You to Your Partners

When is the last time you said thank you? Sending and supporting churches make church planting a reality. But the support they give can easily become expected or taken for granted. Planters and Missionaries can fall into a sense of entitlement, believing we deserve support for our ministry efforts and sacrifice in reaching the lost. Do not let this be true of you! Take the initiative and make the effort to thank those who support you. 

I will go down it if you will hold the rope.
— William Carey to Andrew Fuller

1. Make writing thank you cards routine.

There is a former church plant, now self-sustaining, that consistently write me thank you cards for my ministry investment in their staff and church. I am always encouraged and grateful to find their handwritten note in my mailbox.

Keep a running to-do list for "Thank You" cards and mark out time on your calendar to write them. Taking time to send a handwritten thank you note is an expression of gratitude. Keep a list, mark out time on your calendar, and buy some stamps:) Writing "Thank You" notes should be a routine ministry discipline if you are a church planter.

2. Provide partners with something that connects them to your city and church.

Connection Church Belle Fourche, SD is a church plant I pray for regularly because the planter gave me a great shirt and coffee mug. Every morning when I drink coffee in my Connection mug or when I wear my shirt, I am reminded to pray for this church and their staff. Don't miss out on the little ways you can connect your partners to your church and say thank you. 

Each city has something unique planters can use to say, "thank you" and join their partners to the city. In New Orleans, everyone has the privilege of experiencing "King Cake". Only after eating a Cream Cheese filled King Cake will you fully appreciate what I am saying. Many planters here send out King Cakes in January and February to their partners thanking them for their support. 

3. Text a picture and thank you. 

Ministry is fast paced, and we can quickly lose sight of all the support that made it possible. The next time you host a block party, community event, or see someone saved and baptized. Take a picture and send a text to your partners with a little note that just says, "thank you for making this possible." 

4. Send a book and thank you.

I have a copy of Pray for The Flock by Brian Croft on my nightstand. A church planter here in New Orleans gave me a copy and wrote a lengthy personal note of encouragement. This was a special gift that not only reflected gratitude for my investment, but ministered to me greatly. 

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now.
— Philippians 1:3–5

These are practical and tangible ways to show your partners that you are grateful for their support and covet their partnership.

It saddens me to hear a support church share experiences of ingratitude and entitlement from partnerships. Church planters make it a priority to show your gratitude for how God has a provided for your ministry by intentionally thanking those who support your ministry.

Cultivating and Maintaining Good HABITS

Leadership experts tell us that it takes between 45-66 days to cultivate a habit. The dictionary defines a habit as a "settled or regular tendency or practice". Over time we all develop habits in our life, some good, some bad. Habits are the fruit of what you love the most. Here are few thoughts and resources for developing good habits in your life.

1. Live in Reality.

Your habits will impact your life. Sure there are those stories about someone's grandmother that drank, smoked, and ate bacon for breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day her whole life and lived to be a hundred and ten, but that is the exception, not the norm. Every person has a pattern of daily habits that influence and shape their life. Live in reality and see the future impact your habits will have on your life.

2. Develop Good Habits.

Many people struggle with developing good habits, believing it is impossible to change. This lie is contrary to the transforming work of the gospel. Stop feeling your stuck because of long term bad habits. Many years ago, I went through a season of not wanting to get up early. I began praying a simple prayer that God answered, "Lord, if the Holy Spirit can raise me from the dead, He can raise me from the bed." Start praying today that God would give you the grace and power to change.

If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.
— Romans 8:11

3. Be Accountable.

Accountability is essential in cultivating and maintaining good habits. Having a spouse or friend that holds you accountable can be the difference on those days you need that extra motivation and encouragement. Authentic accountability will give someone permission to challenge you in cultivating and maintaining good habits. Do not go it "alone" find a partner to share your struggles and goals as you seek to lay a solid foundation of good habits in your life.

4. Leverage Tech.

There is an "App" for everything these days. Leveraging technology is helpful when cultivating and maintaining good habits in your life. Just do a Google search for "Best Habit Apps", there are numerous free and inexpensive apps. Here are a two apps that I find helpful in tracking and recording habits. Do not spend more time than necessary researching and experimenting with every app out there, find something that works and stick with it. Consistent use of effective technology can be very useful in cultivating good habits in your life.

1. Strides

2. Evernote

5. Evaluate, Adapt, Overcome.

Evaluation is essential, is what you are doing working? For the last fourteen months, our family of four has been on the incredible journey of fostering a two-year-old and three-year-old! Being OCD about calendars and schedules, this new reality threw a wrench in our family and personal routines, to say the least. Many of my previous routines had to change; I had to re-evaluate, adapt, and overcome to maintain consistent habits in this new seasons of life.

Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

POD Coaching: Life In Community- Part 1 & 2

This semester of POD Coaching will focus on Family and Community. We will be using "Disciplines of a Godly Family" by Kent and Barbara Hughes, and "Life in Community" by Dustin Willis as resources.

As a way to help anyone who has a desire to coach and disciple, I am posting my Coaching Scripts download links below, I pray it is valuable to your ministry.

Download Life in Community Part 1

Download Life in Community Part 2 


POD Coaching: Disciplines of a Godly Family- Part 2

This semester of POD Coaching will focus on Family and Community. We will be using "Disciplines of a Godly Family" by Kent and Barbara Hughes, and "Life in Community" by Dustin Willis as resources.

As a way to help anyone who has a desire to coach and disciple, I am posting my Coaching Scripts download links below, I pray it is valuable to your ministry.

Disciplines of a Godly Family-Part 2 Coaching Script

POD Coaching: Disciplines of a Godly Family- Part 1

This semester of POD Coaching will focus on Family and Community. We will be using "Disciplines of a Godly Family" by Kent and Barbara Hughes, and "Life in Community" by Dustin Willis as resources.

As a way to help anyone who has a desire to coach and disciple, I am posting my Coaching Scripts. I pray it is valuable to your ministry. 

Download Disciplines of a Godly Family Part 1- Coaching Script

Part 2- Creating a Gospel Life Plan: GOAL Setting

Over the next few weeks Joy and I will be sharing something near and dear to our heart. "How to Create a Gospel Life Plan." We are both in agreement the last six years of our marriage and life have been the most intentional and fruitful of our fourteen years of marriage. The main reason for this, is our commitment to create and evaluate a yearly gospel life plan. In the upcoming posts we will share different aspects of exactly how this is done and hopefully encourage you and your family to practice the same. Feel free to email me with any questions you may have at and everyone is invited to our Gospel Life Plan Workshop on Nov 21st in New Orleans, this will be a great jump start to your year, we hope to see you!


If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.
— Yogi Berra

Scott Thomas once said, "living life without goals is like playing football with no end zone." Needless to say, playing football without an end zone would be meaningless, which is also true when we live life with no goals. Cultivating a discipline of setting gospel-centered goals radically changed my life and the life of my family. Our lives went from being all over the map to missionally focused, resulting in gospel fruitfulness. 

The following are ground rules we use as a family for goal setting in our gospel life plan. We pray they are helpful as you as you seek to love God, lead well, and live the gospel for glory of God. 

S – (Specific/Strategic)

Prayer is the starting point for setting clear and strategic goals. Goals are then set and steps of action are developed in order to achieve the goal. We set specific goals when we ask why, who, what, when, where, and how? Prioritizing your life helps inform you concerning strategic initiatives in goal setting. 

M- (Measurable)

What good is a goal that you can't measure? If your goals are not measurable, you never know whether you are making progress toward successful completion. You will not know if you are growing if you cannot measure. Written goals are a means to evaluate and measure growth. 

A- (Attainable) 

Goals must be realistic and attainable. The best goals require a person to stretch a bit to achieve them, but they are not so difficult that they are unattainable. Goals should create a meaningful challenge for the individual. Making un-realistic goals will lead to discouragement and defeat. However, sanctification will involve times of crucifying our flesh in order to grow. 

R- (Relevant)

The foundation for Christian goal setting is; are they relevant to the gospel of Jesus Christ? Make sure you don't confuse goal setting with performance. Your goals are not to define your value and worth, your identity is in Christ. There is no way we can set a "goal" for God to love us any more than He already does. We do not perform our way into pleasing God. Personal and family goals are a way to grow in Christ and manifest His kingdom here on earth, as you LOVE God, LEAD well, and LIVE the gospel. 

T- (Time Bound)

Goals should have starting points, ending points, and fixed durations. Commitment to deadlines helps individuals to focus their efforts on completion. Goals without deadlines or schedules for completion tend to be overtaken by the day-to-day responsibilities and difficulties in life. 

“So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air.” (1 Corinthians 9:26, ESV)

Fall POD Coaching- Growing Up (November Part 2)

Our current semester of POD Coaching is underway. Pod Coaching consists of a monthly meeting between 4-8 participants for an hour and half. This semester of POD Coaching will be focusing on Leadership and Discipleship. We will be using "Painful Side of Leadership" by Jeff Iorg, and "Growing Up" by Robby Gallaty as resources. As a way to help anyone who has a desire to start POD groups, I am posting my Coaching Script for this semesters Coaching. I pray it is valuable to your ministry. 

Download Growing Up Part 2- Coaching Script

Part 1- Creating A Gospel Life Plan: Planning 101


Over the next few weeks Joy and I will be sharing something near and dear to our heart. "How to Create a Gospel Life Plan." We are both in agreement the last six years of our marriage and life have been the most intentional and fruitful of our fourteen years of marriage. The main reason for this, is our commitment to create and evaluate a yearly gospel life plan. In the upcoming posts we will share different aspects of exactly how this is done and hopefully encourage you and your family to practice the same. Feel free to email me with any questions you may have at and everyone is invited to our Gospel Life Plan Workshop on Nov 21st in New Orleans, this will be a great jump start to your year, we hope to see you!

Planning 101

Cultivating a healthy habit of planning is essential in creating a gospel life plan. Joy and I consistently implement times of planning, calendaring, and evaluation. Here are some of our notes when considering how to effectively plan. 

For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.
— Luke 14:28–30

Ground Rules:

1. Rhythms over rigidness.

Life does not stand still, even if you do. Things are always changing with family, work, and schedules. One critical key to planning is to realize what rhythms of life you are in. You will plan differently with two infants than you will with two teenagers. Creating a plan so rigid that it is impossible to implement will only lead to defeat. Learn to roll with the seasons of life you find yourself in and plan accordingly.

2. Consistency over compulsory.

Planning with a list of mandatory accomplishments each week will soon become drudgery, which inevitable results in failure. Planning should always aim for unchanging achievement over a period of time (consistency) in contrast to metrics which you are obligated to perform (compulsory). Joy and I keep the word consistent in front of our children, this is what we pray they see modeled in us and embrace as their own. 

3. Grace over law.  

We cannot plan our way into pleasing God. Gospel-centered planning keeps the finished work of Christ in view for all that we plan to do and that we planned and failed to do. Our worth and value are in Christ, not our plans, therefore we are free to plan and live by that plan with and in grace. 

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,
— Ephesians 2:8

4. Long -term lifestyle over short-term fix.

Our current culture is fixated on the short-term fix. We want to lose 50 lb. in 10 days and are mad when we do not get our desired results. Cultivating a healthy habit of planning is a powerful tool in bringing about long-term lifestyle change personally and spiritually. Don't believe the lie, there are no quick fixes in this life. 

Why Plan?

1. Direction determines destination.
2. Drifting is a result of poor planning.
3. Discipline is a means of sanctification.

Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather train (discipline) yourself for godliness;
— 1 Timothy 4:7

4. Discipleship happens when we plan for it.
There are 168 hours in a week. If you sleep 8 hours a day that leaves you 112. What are your priorities? You will either AGONIZE or PRIORITIZE! 

  • Everything cannot be a priority. You can’t have it all.
  • Everything should not be a priority. All things are not created equal.
  • Some activities and investments are more important than others.
  • Some activities and investments are more lasting than others. 

You will either master time or time will master you.

5. Planning is an act of obedience.
6. Planning is an act of stewardship.
7. Planning manifests the kingdom.

How to begin planning:

1. Identify your priorities.
2. Address your conflict. (laziness, idleness, over commitment, what keeps you from planning and living by a plan?)
3. Develop a process.
4. Implement and evaluate the process.

Do not get stuck!

1. Some people are stuck because they fail to get perspective. They are afraid to acknowledge their current condition.
2. Some people are stuck because they don’t put their plan into action. They are unwilling to do the hard work of being disciplined and monitoring their progress.
3. Some people are stuck because they fail to plan. They assume if they hope and pray for a better future, they can cling to past practices and still find success.

When it comes to life, most people are spectators. They watch events unfold a day at a time. They may plan their careers, the building of a new home, or even a vacation, but it never occurs to them to plan their life. As a result, they drift along, often to destinations they would have never consciously chosen: failing health, a broken marriage, or a stalled career. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
— Michael Hyatt


Fall POD Coaching- Growing Up (October Part 1)

Our current semester of POD Coaching is underway. Pod Coaching consists of a monthly meeting between 4-8 participants for an hour and half. This semester of POD Coaching will be focusing on Leadership and Discipleship. We will be using "Painful Side of Leadership" by Jeff Iorg, and "Growing Up" by Robby Gallaty as resources. As a way to help anyone who has a desire to start POD groups, I am posting my Coaching Script for this semesters Coaching. I pray it is valuable to your ministry.

Download Growing Up Part 1- Coaching Script

Ministry With Your Kids

I love being with my family, I absolutely love it! Are our children perfect? Just come spend a day in the Ross home as we fuss, yell, whine, and cry; your perfect social media family will be shattered. There are occasions our sinfulness is on full display and Joy and I want to go on a parenting sabbatical. But we still love being with and investing in our children, we live for it! 

Over the years I have made it a priority to include my children in my ministry. When I was pastoring a local church, my children would consistently participate in local and global mission trips, join me making hospital visits, travel with me to preach, spend time at the office,  make prospect visits, and a number of other ministry activities. Joy and I had a calendar and a plan. We were committed to leveraging our ministry and having focused intentionality in leading our children. 

Investing in your children if you are a pastor or in ministry can be a tricky undertaking. The demands of ministry at times seem insurmountable, inserting your children could feel overwhelming and unwise. But let me encourage you, If God has called you to shepherd the flock do not forfeit the opportunity to include your children in your ministry.

I am making two huge assumptions:

1. Everyone has commons sense and will use it when taking their kids:) Are there times you should not include your children? Absolutely, I would never take my kids into conflict, counseling, abuse, or tragedies.  

2. You will make it "worthwhile". I was going to use the word "fun", but praying over someone who has terminal cancer is not fun, however it can be a teachable moment. If you are Big Chief "No Fun" and make everything over the top serious, don't take your kids.

Although I could write many reasons for involving your kids in ministry, here are three that stick out for Joy and I:

1. You are modeling a love for your kids. 

Involving your children in ministry clearly models that you love them. Ministers should be doing ministry, enough of this I cannot neglect my family as an excuse for being lazy. If God called you to ministry he called you to unexpected hours, unplanned meetings and difficult people, it is part of the call. Ministry will and has to happen. Be intentional, when possible take your children with you every chance you can. They will love spending time with you and you will model love for them. Involving your children in ministry is a declaration of your love and commitment for them. 

2. You are teaching them discipline. 

"My kids would never act right if I took them with me?" That statement deserves an entire response, in a later post. Nevertheless it is the calling of a pastor to manage his household well, your children should be able to participate in ministry at an age appropriate level. My 6, 8, 9, & 11 year old will be disciplined enough to sit in someones home or a hospital room for thirty minutes while I minister, visit and pray. In our cultural climate of catering to our children, our expectations for how our children should behave have fallen to an all time low. 

3. You are encouraging them in the faith. 

Allowing your children to participate in ministry encourages them in their faith journey. Whenever my children are allowed to pray, serve, or share it is an opportunity for them to own their faith. As I model servant leadership through ministry I am informally discipling my children to hopefully do the same when I am not around. Over the years I have seen first hand how involving my children in ministry has played a part their conversion and growth as a christian. 

Don't waste your ministry and don't waste your parenting, leverage God's call in your life and share it with your children for their good and God's glory. 


Practical Ways To Support A Church Planter

With the overwhelming responsibilities and needs in ministry, it is easy to focus on our own church and lose sight of our support role towards a church plant. Here are some practical ways you can serve and support your church plant starting today.


  • Baby shower for expecting planters.

Have your church host a baby shower for an expectant planter. A partner church hosted a shower last year and provided a planting couple with diapers, baby food and clothes, and a freezer FULL of food. What a blessing!  

  • Monthly volunteers for childcare during worship.

SEND New Orleans has several partner churches that take one worship service a month and send a volunteer team to do childcare. This allows overworked volunteers to come and worship with their church family. 

  • Date night and childcare for a planter. 

One of the greatest barriers planters face in cultivating a healthy marriage, is simply finding childcare and resources to make it happen. Plan to send a team down to provide childcare and a dinner gift card. I promise it will be a blessing.  

  • Church Planter Profiles prayer strategy. 

The greatest partnership a planter can have is a faithful church praying for their family and work. Visit the NAMB website and download church planter profiles today, click here for SEND New Orleans Church Planter Profiles. 

  • Hosting a Global Impact Conference at your church.

Having a church planter come and share at a GIC is a powerful way to communicate and challenge your church to participate in local and global missions. You can read more information here about the benefits of a Global Impact Conference. 

  • Pastor Appreciation Month.

 Unlike many established churches with a rich tradition of pastor appreciation, church plants reaching un-churched and de-churched people rarely have a background in pastor appreciation. Use this October as an opportunity to appreciate your church plant pastor. Here are some great resources for pastor appreciation

If you would like more ideas and information take time to visit the North American Mission Board SUPPORT church resource page. Here you will find out how your church can be the best SUPPORT church possible as you lead your church to love on and support church planters across North America.